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IM NOT HOMOPHOBIC BUT I FIND GAY MEN KISSING GROSS MOVIE
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Where are we supposed to be gay? Are we ever really safe? When a gay man can get acid sprayed in his face outside a bar in Vauxhall, you start to realise how paralysing it is to just "be" sometimes. So, until I live out my pipe dream and join a commune of bears in San Francisco, basically, publicly displaying my sexual orientation puts me at risk.Įven the places we've co-opted as safe spaces aren't really ours.
In the UK last year, 19 UK police forces reported an increase in homophobia-related crimes in 2013. If I do, I know I have to perform a kind of risk assessment in order to figure out whether being that carefree is actually worth it. Like most of my gay friends, I don't really hold hands in public much. The reality, however, is that most gay men don't even dare to do what Lee did, because they're already aware of the politics of public handholding.
Today, about how naïve he (and straight men in general) are when it comes to homophobia, and suggests that an assumption exists whereby, if you're not being beaten with a tire iron in aī-plot, you're not subject to homophobia at all.